Expectations. We all have them. We expect things of ourselves and of others. It seems that a lot of times, we as people are living our lives moving from displaying one perception of ourselves to another depending on where we are, who we are with and the season of life we are in. Even in my own life, between my job, my child, my family, friends and own persona needs, I have a completely different (although sometime similar) set of expectations that I need to meet for things to run as smoothly as possible. These expectations of me by myself and others coupled with my belief that need to progressively grow into the woman that God created me to be can easily lead to a life full of stress and a constant feeling of pressure to make the right decisions. To be honest, it can be a lot sometimes. I must be a good employee, an example for my child, love my family, support my friends and be who God has called me to be and a wrong decision in one area almost always impacts the others. It becomes very easy to feel trapped. It’s like being in a room with 6 doors. Each door has its own key to open it. Using the right key to open any one of 5 of the doors can cause all of the other doors to close permanently. But the key to one of the doors is also the master key to all of the doors. To put my everything into my job means that things with my child can and will fall through the cracks. As a full-time single parent, my child is my legacy, and usually my life, so things often get put on the back burner for his needs. I make every effort possible to to be a part of my family and friends’ support system, especially in their time of need but unfortunately that also means that my own needs get neglected at times for the betterment of others. (I wish that someone had explained to me what adulthood is like before I had to actually be one, lol)
Then the Lord God formed the man of dust from the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living creature. -Genesis 2:7ESV
What I have come to understand is that the key to navigating the many responsibilities and roles in my life is that I first have to accept that I was created for a purpose. And while on the journey of growing into living a life that fulfills that purpose I must look to the One that created me to guide my steps. I will almost certainly disappoint everyone that is counting on me at one point or another because I am inherently flawed and broken. I will constantly disappoint God no matter how hard I try to avoid it because, let’s face it, if I (or anyone for that matter) was able to meet and exceed God’s standards then I would forever be blind to how necessary the salvation of Jesus is. I must seek guidance from the One that created me to go where He wants me to go and trust that if I am following His lead then anything that gets neglected or left behind is for the sole purpose of God getting the most glory as the end game. And I didn’t come to this realization lightly. I know that in saying “anything” this also includes my child, whom I would unhesitatingly give life and limb for. But in order to grow into the person that God has created me to be, I must trust that whatever He gives or takes away is to help further me along the path of trusting and glorifying Him. I can work to meet the expectations of others but ultimately my responsibility and accountability are to God’s will for my life.
No matter what you are juggling or who you are trying to please, I pray that you do not let the feeling of having to meet the expectations of others deter you from walking in the light of who God has created you to be. May your week be filled with opportunities to give God glory above all else. Happy Monday!
You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. -Isaiah 2:26
Grace and peace