My 3 year old son seems to have mastered the art of having an explanation for everything. He has recently started experiencing the change in consequences for his actions now that he is fully aware of and can articulate to me what he has done wrong versus what he was supposed to do. And whenever I have to correct his, or discipline him (depending on the level of disobedience) he makes the saddest face and hangs his head. One day I found myself explaining to him not to hang his head when he is in trouble because he needs to face his consequences head on, learn from them and do better next time.
As I was later thinking about it, I wondered if I was sending the right message. I want my son to have remorse for making a wrong decision, but I don’t want him to feel like he has to live in a constant state of regret and “what ifs”. Now at the age of 3, I am sure my son isn’t thinking this deep into it. I mean, five minutes later and he is back to his happy, laughing self, as if nothing ever happened.
When Jesus had received the sour wine, he said, “It is finished,” and he bowed his head and gave up his spirit. – John 19:30
Even in my own experience, when I mess up and sin against God, I have to remind myself of the grace that comes from the Father that loves me deeply, while still understanding that I must endure the consequences of my actions. It took a long time for me to come to a point where I no longer hang my head at my faults, not because I am unashamed, but because I know that God knows the true repentance of my heart and is the only one who can fully knows the dept of pain I feel when I have disappointed Him.
On this Monday, I want to encourage you. When the hurt and shame of your mistakes weigh down on you, don’t hang your head, don’t look left or right, but look up. Look up towards the cross that has already bore your sins, past and present. Look up to the One who hung His head with the weight of your sins on Him so that you could live free from the burden of sin. Look up to what your life could look like if you just left the sin you have been wrestling with at the feet of the One who already died for it. Just LOOK UP! Happy Monday.